Parenting Life Guide

Published: September 4, 2026

Toddler Tantrums: Why They Happen

Tantrums are considered a normal part of development, most common between ages 1 and 3. Toddlers are still learning to put feelings into words and to manage impulses, so frustration often comes out as a tantrum instead. Based on CDC and AAP guidance, here’s an overview of why tantrums happen at this age and how to respond.

Why Tantrums Happen

When a toddler can’t yet express what they want in words, or when hunger and tiredness make it harder to manage emotions, a tantrum can follow. Under high stress, the brain’s emotional centers tend to take over first, which is part of why a child in the middle of a tantrum has trouble listening or thinking clearly.

Responding During a Tantrum

When your child is safe, staying calm yourself tends to help. Offering small choices, like “do you want this or that,” or gently shifting attention to something else can help redirect the moment. Behavior that threatens safety, like hitting or throwing objects, is usually best met with firm, immediate limits.

Everyday Habits That Help Reduce Tantrums

Giving specific praise for moments your child handles well tends to encourage more of that behavior over time. If tantrums often show up around hunger or naptime, planning snacks and rest ahead of time can help prevent some outbursts.

Caregiving Tip

If a tantrum starts in public, moving to a quieter spot and staying nearby until the feeling passes is one option. Naming the emotion together in the moment can help your child build the words to use next time instead.

When to Consider Talking with a Pediatrician

If tantrums continue multiple times a day past age 4, involve your child hurting themselves or others, or include breath-holding, checking in with a pediatric provider may be helpful. This information isn’t a diagnostic tool and doesn’t replace advice from a medical professional.